When we learned our family was about to grow, I felt happy and at the same time uncertain what this would mean for my career. I am kind of a perfectionist, so looking at these superhero celebrity mums in the media made me worry whether I could live up to the expectations. I thought that all I had to do was work hard enough and everything would continue as it was, just with a baby in addition. All of you who have kids know that this must have been the pregnancy hormones speaking. Truth is, things change, especially when you don’t have the cooks, nannies or personal assistants to lead that glossy superhero lifestyle. I needed to get real…which brings me to my first learning:

It’s not only about you

“Be honest about what you and your partner want from career and life.”

In many families the division of childcare might be clear but for many tough questions need to be asked. Who will stay home at the beginning? Will you both work full-time after a while? Who will be there when the kid gets sick, needs to be driven to playdates? I have witnessed discussions where couples argue about whose meetings are “more important” and who needs to pick up the child. One usually gives in more often than the other, resulting in frustration. Once you are clear about who does what it will make life much easier in the long run.

Think about your colleagues when preparing your leave.
Think about your colleagues when preparing your leave.

Your happiness could be someone else’s extra hours.

After the initial excitement in the office about a new pregnancy, worry can creep up on colleagues who start to imagine the extra work that may come their way. It could be tough to find a temporary replacement when you leave, so try and put yourself into their shoes: presenting them with a plan how your tasks could be split up and your return plan.

“Forward thinking is important if you don’t want to end up in a ‘parking position’ job once you return.”

It’s complicated, but it works

Recognizing these two issues strongly influenced my decisions. In our case, I was working on the 2010 FIFA World Cup South Africa and our son was due in December 2009. I had put so much work into that project that I wanted to see it through.

Careful planning can keep dream projects a reality.

Hence, I enjoyed eight weeks with our newborn and then went back to work, but not without pangs of guilt. My husband looked after the baby until the World Cup was over and then we swapped roles again and I took a year off to spend quality time at home. After that year, we found a daycare spot; I went back to work full-time and my husband switched to part-time. I usually drop our son off in the morning and my husband picks him up. I try to leave work early two days a week to spend time with our son and log on from home when he is in bed to finish up any tasks I have to do.

Many people think that’s a complicated lifestyle, but it works for us. The most important thing is that you and your loved ones are happy and that you have an employer and manager who give you the flexibility to balance family and career.”

My manager is cool with my flexible work schedule and in addition adidas offers a daycare facility, parent-child offices and summer sports camps for kids when most daycare places are closed.

Keep in touch and stay informed

Speaking of closed, you might have decided to take some time off for a while, but closing down all lines of communication is a risky thing if you want to continue driving your career once you are back. During my parental leave, we restructured parts of the company and introduced a new strategy. Quite a change to stomach if taken by surprise! The first days back at work are hard enough, so I figured that staying informed while I was away was better than digging through a huge pile of information upon my return. Simple things like a coffee with colleagues, attending the annual kick-off, reading our news, kept me in the loop.

Shaking off the little devil

The fact that I still knew what was going on made my re-entry a lot smoother. What was hard was to draw a clear line between work and family. Often when I could collect our son early my smartphone was too tempting. I told myself that it took “just” a minute to type up a mail or call someone. Still, it made me feel uncomfortable, because I was giving him fake time: time yes, but not my full attention. In hindsight, I guess I did that because deep down the little perfectionist devil was on my shoulder and whispering in my ear: “Come on, show them that you can do it all. Family or not, there’s no difference.” Now, when I leave the office to pick up my son, I ask only to be called in urgent cases. My smartphone stays in my pocket and I fully enjoy our time together.

Draw a line between work and family time.
Draw a line between work and family time.
Speaking of distractions. While writing, I’ve been eyeing the latest edition of my favorite gossip magazine. Yup, touché, seems like I still have to work on staying focused sometimes. I’ll start right away, stop writing and start reading one of these unrealistic celebrity mum stories. Hey, don’t judge me, I can’t help it, they’re still entertaining!

What’s your experience with having a career and a family?


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by Arya 26.01.2016
Career and Family are the important part of our life. We have to focus on our career as well take care of family.

Nice article.
by Kirsten 28.01.2016
Hi Arya, happy that you like my post :-) I'd be interested to hear how manage to juggle both, career and family?

Have a great day, Kirsten
by Anne 28.01.2016
Dear Kirsten,

great article, I really enjoyed reading. There is only one thing I am missing: what about you as an individual? After two kids and a couple of years back in the job, I have learned that with all of the expectations and workload, it is equally important that you also plan for personal time for yourself. And – important to mention – time with your partner. Being a parent and a businesswoman/man sometimes lets you forget that there are things in life that give you the energy to scope with the daily madness. It is important that you fill your batteries every once in a while. And it is ok to take this time because no kid nor employer wants frustrated or even burned out parents/employees.

Looking forward to read more comments. Best, Anne
by Tina 28.01.2016
Thanks for the post, but as I assume you have one kid, what happened if you think about double or triple them? Times and thinking might be more challenging. I was told 14 years ago, if you get kids your career is over. I still believe for sure NOT! I am a Mom on one hand, but on the other I am a personality, which needs feedback from others. In work life as well as in personal life people were looking at me, saying, how can you work with so many kids..? I need my work! I need it for getting feedback, for still being alive (that's a truly emotion) and not been used to change nappies all day long. My job is my little vacation from reality.... what does it mean? It means it is the opposite of listening to three voices at the same time, it is the opposite of feeding three different kind of characters beating you in a second, it is the opposite of sitting down and learning sometimes stupid stuff from school and it is the opposite of having conversation on dinner, as I have a great lunch at work! My job is needed to calm me down when I come home. I either don't have a Nanny, but I have a husband! I don't have a hobby, my hobby is supposed to be a household own, like cleaning, ironing, washing etc. but I burn a lot of calories with this.... I think life with or without kids is a decision we privately decide, but for sure it shouldn't be the case, because of deciding to be a women for kids or to have a career or not. But it seems still is like this and a lot of DAX company show it, if they have women in leading positions they mostly have no kids....

I am happy to have my kids, but I know as well that my coming to a VP level career is over. And to be honest.... do I need this? I still have good feedback on what I am doing, I have manageable stress and three kids, who still see Mommy 4 times a week....

Maybe we sometimes should be happy with what we get...
by Kirsten 29.01.2016
Hi Anne,

correct, I did not write about taking time for myself - maybe a topic for a separate follow-up post indeed. I actually do take time off for myself. At work, I try to participate in sports whenever I can (we have a great fitness program at adidas). On weekends, I try not to make any plans and just do whatever I or we as a family enjoy. That can be a foot massage just for myself (yay!) or a day in a theme park with the whole family...
by Kirsten 29.01.2016
Hi Tina,

thanks for your comment. Loved the description with "the voices" at home :-) Yes, I only have one kid, but good friends who have 2 or 3 that lead a similar lifestyle. For me, work is not my vacation from reality, but I can understand if it is for you ;-) I think it really is a difficult decision how far people (women or men) want to go with their career, because in many cases, the higher you climb the less time you have for your private life (in most cases). But for me the point is, that I want to work for a company that supports me with the programs and flexibility needed as much as possible, e.g. daycare, parent-child office, working from home etc. So that in the end I can decide how far I want to go. Let's see where I end up. Have a great weekend!
by Isabel 02.02.2016
Hi Kirsten,

You have write the post in the perfect moment for me. I´m pregnant and you mention most of the things that I´m worry about. I´m still working but I´m already thinking about the moment to come back work and how to be as efficient as I am know in the less time possible as I love my job. I really appreciate your advices and for sure I will follow it.
by Kirsten 02.02.2016
Hi Isabel,

happy that you found it useful. All the best for your family. Hope you find the perfect balance between work and life. Have a great day!
by Career 19.02.2016
Family and career are the most important things for me
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